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Are you experiencing domestic violence?
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Domestic violence is abusive behavior used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. It can involve actions, threats, or other ways of making you do something you don't want to. It can take many forms that include, but are not limited to, the following examples:
Physical: Hitting, pushing, holding down
Sexual: Demanding sex, rape, touching
Emotional: Calling names, bullying, shaming, jealousy, making you feel worthless
Economic: Controlling money or other things that money can buy; stopping you from working; taking your money or other property
Psychological: Manipulative behavior, gaslighting, embarrassing you in public
Technological: Controlling access to phones and computers, cyberstalking, online harassment, tracking where you are
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Domestic violence has a range of effects, any of which are traumatic and life-changing. Some of them are as follows:
Physical effects:
Bruising
Bruising or marks around the neck
Sprained or broken wrists
Chronic fatigue/Insomnia
Shortness of breath
Involuntary shaking
Changes in eating/sleeping patterns
Fertility issues
Chronic pain
Gastrointestinal distress
Chest, back, and pelvic pain
Traumatic brain injury
Mental effects:
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) (a mental health condition that's caused by an extremely stressful or terrifying event — either being part of it or witnessing it)
Depression
Anxiety
Low self-esteem
Suicidal thoughts or attempts
Alcohol and/or drug abuse
Emotional and spiritual effects:
Feeling hopeless/discouraged about the future
Feeling unworthy or not good enough
Inability to trust
Loss of traditional values and spiritual practices
Intergenerational trauma
Feelings of isolation and shame
Lack of motivation
Effects on children:
Increased risk for emotional behavioral problems, whether they have been abused or have witnessed abuse
Anxiety
Depression
Struggles in school
Feeling overly fearful
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Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender.
Intimate partner and dating violence can occur between past and present partners.
The most dangerous time for someone who is experiencing domestic violence can be when they are trying to leave their abusive partner.
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If you are experiencing dating or relationship violence in any form, it's good to have a plan. Maybe you aren't ready to leave, or maybe you need to leave right away. In either case, having a plan beforehand will help to ensure your safety in this difficult time. We highly recommend you work with a domestic violence advocate who can help you with this process, but if you don’t and are ready to leave, by taking the following steps you can help to protect yourself and/or your children.
Assess your threat/risk/lethality: Has the offender threatened to kill? Does he have access to guns? Has he strangled during an assault? These are indicators of serious danger, especially when you attempt to leave the situation.
Gather documents you may need: Gather ID cards, medical records, money, checks, credit and ATM cards, insurance papers, extra sets of keys, car title, mortgage or rental agreements, photos, and small items of sentimental value. Hide them in a location available only to you.
Home and personal safety: Vary your routine; do not take the same route to work or the store; install a deadbolt on a bedroom door; hide a phone to call 911 and ask neighbors to call 911 if they hear noise or screams.
Phone and social media safety: If you think your activities are being monitored, assume you are being watched. Use a land line whenever possible, avoid using your home computer and do not use social media.
Address confidentiality: If you have relocated without the offender, get a PO box and use it with all service providers such as doctors, schools, etc.
Keep children safe: When transporting children, do not use the same route each time. Notify—in writing—school, daycare, babysitter, etc. of who is allowed to pick up your children.
Keep safe when outside the home: Inform supervisors and co-workers of your situation and ask for help. Vary your route to work and leave work with other people.
Court appearances: Attending court can be a serious risk to you and your children. Speak with an advocate or court personnel and devise an entrance/exit plan.
Drug or alcohol use: Using drugs or alcohol puts you and your children at great disadvantage for safety and can undermine your credibility. Try not to use them.
Protection orders: Give careful thought before requesting a Protective Order and include a victim advocate in the discussion.
Know your options: If you don't feel safe visiting an advocacy program or leaving for a shelter, look for other resources like websites or hotlines if you have questions or need help. You can contact Kinship Heals at any time. We are here to help and will always keep your information confidential. You can also contact the StrongHearts Native Helpline at 1-844-762-8483 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 for help.
When family is involved, it adds more to think about. You'll need to think about how to keep children or siblings safe and out of harm's way. If you don't plan to leave, think about temporary places of safety, like a shelter or the house of a trusted family member or friend.
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Healing may feel far away, but it is possible. There are things that you can do at any time that will help, including:
Participating in therapy/counseling
Safety planning, with an advocacy organization and/or trusted support groups
Joining support groups
Taking part in traditional ceremonies and practices to begin regaining a sense of self
Picking up a new hobby, such as:
Reading
Writing/Journalling
Art of any form
Running and/or going for walks
Building a healthy support system
Reconnecting with your community
Setting healthy boundaries

Are you experiencing sexual assault?
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Sexual assault is any type of sexual activity or contact that you do not consent (agree) to. It can be done by an intimate partner, spouse, dating partner, acquaintance, family member, or stranger. It may be drug-facilitated, which is when a person takes advantage of someone who is under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Child or underage sexual assault includes any sexual contact with a minor (a person under the age of 16). Inducing a person under 18 years old to have sex is also a crime.
Sexual assault includes contact activities, such as:
Unwanted touching or kissing
Forced oral sex
Forced penetration
Rape
It also includes non-contact activities, such as:
Voyeurism, which is when someone watches private sexual acts without consent
Exhibitionism, which is when someone exposes themselves in public
Sexual harassment or threats
Forcing someone to pose for intimate pictures
Sending someone unwanted sexual messages
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Regardless of how recent or far in the past, sexual assault can have long-term effects, that include the following.
Physical effects:
Long-term pain
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)/Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
Pregnancy
Asthma
Eating disorders
Emotional effects:
Flashbacks
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) (a mental health condition that's caused by an extremely stressful or terrifying event — either being part of it or witnessing it)
Panic attacks
Anxiety
Depression
Suicidal thoughts
Feelings of isolation
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Consent is a clear, enthusiastic yes to sexual activity.
Consent is an ongoing process, not a one-time question.
You cannot give consent if you are:
Threatened
Forced or coerced (manipulated or pressured)
Under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol
Unconscious
Under the age of consent (16 years of age)
Not mentally able due to illness or disability
Saying yes to something in the past doesn't mean you agree to it in the future.
No one should ever do anything sexual with you without your permission.
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Even though it may feel really hard, it is okay and important to ask for help. To protect and help yourself, you can:
Report any assault to law enforcement (e.g. the police).
Get medical attention to prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)/Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and pregnancy.
Contact a sexual assault victim advocate to support you.
Take care of yourself emotionally through:
Meditation
Self-care
Spiritual healing
Support groups
Therapy

Are you experiencing stalking?
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Stalking is when 1) someone willfully and maliciously engages in a knowing pattern of conduct or series of acts over a period of time directed at a specific person which seriously alarms or annoys that person and would cause a reasonable person to suffer substantial emotional distress, and 2) makes a threat with the intent to place the person in imminent fear of death or bodily injury.
It can happen in person, by phone, and by text, email, social posts, and other digital methods. It can take many forms that include the following examples:
Physical contact: Acting with the intention to kill, injure, harass, or intimidate someone
Spying on/Monitoring: Placing someone under surveillance with the intent to kill, injure, harass, or intimidate them
Frightening: Causing someone to be in reasonable fear of death or serious bodily injury to themselves, their spouse/partner, an immediate family member, or their pet or service animal
Tormenting: Causing or attempting to cause substantial emotional distress to someone
Cyberstalking: Emailing, instant messaging, electronic messaging, using video or digital cameras and listening devices/bugs, and GPS tracking
Vandalizing property: Damaging the victim's car, home, or other belongings
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Stalking can impact all areas of a person's life, from lifestyle to mental, emotional, and physical health. For example:
46% of stalking victims fear not knowing what will happen next.
29% of stalking victims fear it will never stop.
1 in 8 employed stalking victims lose time from work as a result of their victimization and more than half lose 5 days of work or more.
1 in 7 stalking victims move as a result of their victimization.
Stalking victims suffer much higher rates of depression, anxiety, insomnia, and social dysfunction than people in the general population.
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3 in 4 stalking victims are stalked by someone they know, but it can also be by someone you don't know at all.
A stalker may be or may once have been an intimate partner. Having a relationship with someone does not mean you have consented to being stalked.
Stalking isn't always what we expect. It can include being given unwanted gifts, communication through video games and banking apps, and indirect communication through other people.
Stalking can lead to murder. 54% of female victims reported stalking to police before they were killed by their stalker.
48.8% of American Indian/Alaska Native women experience stalking in their lifetime and experience the highest rates of stalking victimization of any race/ethnicity.
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Stalking is a serious violation of your privacy, your rights, and your well-being. It can be overwhelming and dangerous. To increase your safety, you can:
Build a healthy support system by making connections in your community.
Build a safety plan with an advocacy organization and support groups.
Join support groups, seek therapy, and practice spiritual healing and self-care for emotional healing.
Contact your local authorities and local advocacy organizations to help assist you. Remember, police officers do not have the credentials to determine if the behavior is considered stalking—that is up to a judge to determine. Don't let them discourage you from getting help.
Keep track of all incidents, including date/time, place, and what happened. Advocacy programs have templates to help with this.
Make your social media private and don’t share any sensitive information on social media.

Are you experiencing sex trafficking?
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Sex trafficking is a form of human trafficking and forced labor that involves getting someone to engage in sexual activity for exchange of something of value to the trafficker, without the person's freely given consent. Victims can be abused by a family member, friends, employers, strangers, or even a boyfriend or husband.
Commercial sexual activity can include sex work (prostitution), making pornography, stripping, phone sex, internet sex/chatrooms and camera work, having an OnlyFans account, and dating for money.
Trafficking can include the following:
Recruitment: Getting or trying to get someone to participate in sex acts against the person's will or without freely given consent
Transportation: Moving someone to another place in order to engage in commercial sexual activity against their will or without freely given consent
Enticement: Luring someone into sex acts that they do not want to do by offering them some benefit
Force/Coercion: Making someone participate in commercial sex acts through physical force, bullying, threatening, persuasion, trickery, or fraud
Underage commercial sex: Getting a person under the age of 18 to participate in paid sex acts
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Sex trafficking often involves sexual assault and rape, sexual abuse of children, and/or being punched, beaten, kicked, and/or threatened with a weapon. It causes serious long-lasting and far-reaching physical, emotional, and psychological damage.
Physical effects:
Bodily injuries
Traumatic brain injuries
Health problems
Nervous system problems
Cardiovascular/respiratory issues
Gastrointestinal (stomach and intestine) disorders
Dental problems
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)/Sexual transmitted infections (STIs)
Problems with having children in the future
Emotional and psychological effects:
Symptoms of dissociation (feeling disconnected from yourself and the world around you)
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Depression
Shame and guilt
Suicidal feelings and actions
Flashbacks
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Sex traffickers use all kinds of different methods to gain control over victims. These include things like:
Sexual, emotional, or mental abuse
Encouraging substance abuse (getting victims to use drugs or alcohol)
Threatening harm against the victim or victim's family
Physical assault
Debt (getting the victim to owe them money)
Torture
Coercion (bullying or persuading)
False affection/loving/grooming
Threatening with arrest
Isolating the victim from friends, family, and community
When identifying a potential victim, sex traffickers look for people who have any vulnerability such as:
Being young
Being unhoused or lacking stable housing
Having a history of abuse
Being able to "pass" as multiple ethnicities or different races, which is particularly acute for Native women and girls
Not feeling accepted
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Many trafficking victims do not identify themselves as victims. Some suffer from fear, shame, and distrust of law enforcement. It is also not unusual for trafficking victims to develop traumatic bonds with their traffickers because of the manipulative nature of this crime.
Victims are often trafficked by spouses, parents, significant others, family members, and friends.
Most traffickers use manipulation tactics, deception, and other physiological means of coercing victims into trafficking. Physical violence may be used, but it is not the only method.
Not to be confused with human smuggling, human trafficking can happen in a person's home town or even their own home.
Victims often don’t know they are victims, and may even become defensive when approached by someone trying to help.
Sex trafficking doesn't always involve money. It can involve an exchange of anything that has value, which could be alcohol, drugs, clothing, beauty treatments, technology, and so on.
Anyone—girls, women, boys, and men—can be trafficked.
Native women and girls are more at risk because they are hypersexualized by some people due to colonization.
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If you are worried that someone is at risk of sex trafficking, you should watch out for the following. The person:
Goes missing from care (“runs away”)
Is frequently late for curfew or absent from school
Owns new items (jewelry, new clothing, etc.) and you don’t know where it came from
Has a tattoo they are reluctant to explain
Has a cellphone that you didn’t purchase
Is involved with an older male
Has multiple sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)/sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or pregnancies
Is being secretive about what they are doing online
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Talking about exploitation isn’t easy for either you or the person experiencing trafficking, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Here are some tips to help:
Take a minute to breathe: It's a lot to deal with, and staying calm is important.
Ask nonjudgmental questions: Neither you nor your child are to blame.
Be patient: Don’t push the person to talk before they're ready. Trust them, believe them, and listen to what they have to say.
Seek support: There are resources to support you and the person experiencing trafficking in recovery from exploitation or to equip them with tools to prevent this form of abuse.
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There is no one-size-fits all approach to healing. Kinship Heals is here to help with support and finding you a safe space to gain yourself and begin to heal. Things you can do include:
Keeping a journal
Taking a walk in nature
Picking up a hobby
Gardening
Meditation
Joining a support group or participating in therapy
Building healthy connections with friends, family, and community

No matter how tough your situation feels, we are here to help.
YOU MAY FEEL THAT SEEKING HELP IS HARD.
That's a normal response to your experience and the barriers you might face, such as:
Feelings of shame
Fear of retaliation or being harmed again by the person who has hurt you before
Bad experiences with service providers, such as law enforcement, courts, and medical providers
We understand what is happening to you, because it has happened to many of us too. You are not alone.
KINSHIP HEALS OFFERS THE FOLLOWING FREE SERVICES:
Advocacy: Help and information for legal, health, education, and cultural needs, including for protection orders
Crisis intervention: Response to abuse that is from the past, happening now, or ongoing
Short-term emergency shelter: Safe spaces to be during crisis and emergency situations
Relocation assistance: Help moving when you are leaving an abusive situation
Transition assistance: Support to become economically stable
Support groups: Connection to others who understand what you are experiencing
Education and healing events: Ceremonies for healing, support with school
Side-by-side encouragement: Accompaniment to medical/law enforcement and other appointments

The violence, abuse, and pain can be stopped.
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Privacy, confidentiality, and privileged communications are the keystones of safety for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and abuse. Under Massachusetts law, our domestic violence advocates have privileged communication status.
This means we will not tell anyone what you say without your consent (permission).
Our programs to support you
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Prevention, Education, Awareness, and Community Engagement
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Services for Urban Natives that Respect Indigenous Sovereignty and Experiences
FEAST
Food Equity and
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CARE
Ceremony, Advocacy, Resources, and Experience
STAR
Shelter, Transitional Assistance, and Relocation